Fatherlessness and Forgiveness
One of the largest issues facing many cultures and countries is fatherlessness. Children growing up without fathers are losing out. Whether or not a single mother raises her children; she still is not a father. A woman simply cannot teach a boy how to be a man. Just as much as the opposite is true. Men are needed and fathers must be elevated and celebrated. A father is more than what today’s society gives them credit for. We as a society cannot bow down or accept the notion that men are women, women are men; or that men and fathers are not needed. Without men- where would we be? The feminizing and diminishing of men and fathers needs forgiveness so that hearts and minds of people everywhere can change.
You see; men bring much to the table that people don’t recognize. Until we move beyond the mass media plan to remove men and fathers for all things women we won’t see the value of men. Imagine reading a Bible without King David; or even Jesus. Try reading a Bible without Adam and see how far you would get. There would be no life without a father; and God is the Father of it all. Whether you agree or disagree does not change the truth from being true. Men and fathers are needed. They have value. Period.
When we remove men and fathers from the equation we miss out on much. For example,
- 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes
- 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes – 32 times the average.
- 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Center for Disease Control)
- 80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes –14 times the average. (Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26)
- 70% of youths in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (U.S. Dept. of Justice
- 24 million children (34 percent) live absent their biological father.
Children lose out and in big ways when fathers are not present. Just because a woman’s voice is louder does not mean men and fathers need not be heard. It is time for all to stand up for fathers!
The importance of fathers is one that cannot be escaped; regardless of what propaganda companies and the media want to distort your thinking to be. While sure there may be many fathers who are deadbeats; this does not excuse the scripture that makes it clear in 1Peter 3: “Wives, respect and obey your husbands in the same way. Then the husbands who do not obey the word of God will want to know God. They will want to know God because their wives live good lives, even though they say nothing about God.” There is a responsibility that women have to men and men have to women for it reads that men should love their wives. Just because a man or father may not be standing up as a woman would; isn’t because he isn’t able. It may just be that he has been so beaten down that his voice is gone. It’s time for forgiveness and reign and fathers to pick themselves up and women to be in the role of help mate so that we can live united in this society.
When men are disintegrated to nothing more than kleenex and portrayed as disposable it builds the stage for future generations to live in it. We as a society stop this eradication of men and what they contribute to society because we are only hurting ourselves in the long run. The Word commands all to honor their mother and father. It does not read honor their mother and mother. Hence; men are fathers and should be honored. Society needs to be reminded that it’s men who are leaders, breadwinners; men of God. Warriors and hero’s for their children. It’s men who are the majority of world leaders. It’s men God first created to begin mankind.
Through forgiveness on the parts of men for not standing up for themselves, women for diminishing men; and companies movements to feminize men we will be better able to see the value of men as a whole. We will be able to raise up future generations of children who will be in position to stand firm as boys to young men to men raising up their own future generations. This is a call of repentance of believing its acceptable to live in a society where men are not needed and that women are fathers on fathers day. It is an act of purest disrespect to dishonor people in such a way and if we all want restoration of our families it must begin with forgiveness. Forgiveness will restore families and through it; help us each to get over ourselves to recognize that we all must stand together united as a house or country divided cannot stand.
As we get closer to Fathers Day remember fathers. Remember the sacrifices they have made. While your father may not be the one you wanted; reflect and be thankful to God your Father who gave you life. Reflect on the fact that He will never leave or forsake you. He created you for a purpose and most likely it was not to put down a gender or role of another. And so on this fathers day relish in the fact that you have the power to be the change that the next father needs to raise up the next generation. And what an absolute blessing that is!