Mothers are known to be heroes. They have strength. They can do anything in the eyes of a child. They are wonderful; they are hormonal mistake-makers. Sometimes more often than not the focus is on the latter instead of the former.
Mothers live in a world of expectations that never end. It’s amazing that mothers can even survive the day much less teenagers, a career and all the additional goings on that occur in daily life. It’s amazing that they live to tell the stories of successes and failures.
Mothers need forgiveness for the mistakes they made. They are not perfect; there are merely people trying to do what is best and sometimes they have no clue what that is or what it looks like. How do I know? I have a mother. I have a biological mother who made a choice on that day in 1977 that drastically changed the course of my life. I have a mother whom I hated for most of my life. I have a mother whom I blamed for how my turned out. I have a mother who made a mistake. I have a mother that I made the choice to forgive.
The decision to forgive was something that not only changed my life; but hers as well. It changed the lives of those that I come into contact with. It forever changed how I see things. Never before could I grasp the choice that a mother, my mother had to make. You see; I was an almost victim of the baby black market in Canada in the 1970’s. I didn’t know. I didn’t know until I forgave my mother and learned the truth.
There are many things that a mother does that sometimes a child cannot understand. Perhaps this is true for you. Your mother has done things to you that have hurt you and you feel justified to harbor resentment, forgiveness and bitterness toward her. You are really hurting yourself more than you are hurting her. She knows why she did what she did. You on the other hand-do not. In all your mental glory you deem it appropriate to judge something you know nothing about. I sure did!
Once I learned the truth I was set free. I was set free from my unforgiveness but the truth as well. Additionally; the real Truth of course has set me free. I never again have to look back at the mistakes my mother made because they are not relevant. What is important is to see that none of us are any better and that we all make mistakes; mothers included.
Regardless of what your mother has done; there is a reason. Whether or not you like the reason or agree with it doesn’t change the fact that there is one. By forgiving your mother you will see and understand why. It will bring empathy to a situation that while harboring unforgiveness you could not see. Your forgiveness will not only change your life but hers as well. It will bring peace a relationship anew. And in the end; isn’t that what’ it’s about?